
About a year ago my aunt put together a book for my cousin Logan for her 21st birthday. We were all asked to contribute a "recipe". Some people submitted actual recipes for food. I tried to come up with a recipe for "life" since I figured there were plenty of cookbooks with recipes for food. Anyway, as I approach another birthday I thought I should take a look at it, see if what I'd written made any sense...and if I was following it. Assuming it was worth following. I suppose the jury is still (and always will be) out on that although I know I sure am trying!
Recipe for (a meaningful) lifeIngredients:
- only things that matter to you...there are no set ingredients although these are some ideas:
family, friends, love, compassion, passion, selflessness, awareness, courage, humor, determination, acceptance, open-mindedness, forgiveness, faith, resilience
- use the very best quality that you can afford...you deserve it! But know which ingredients are just as good generic. If you can make your life more simple and less costly you'll probably end up being happier in the long run.
Directions:- Mix everything together in a space as large as you have available to you. Don't be afraid if it's messy. Life is generally messy and that's okay...it usually turns out to be a treat in the end.
- Listen to people who you respect as you're watching it all come together. Hear their suggestions for improvement but do not toss in "extras" just because they work for someone else. Learn to hear your own heart.
- Stay flexible and don't be afraid if certain combinations come out different every time.
- Sometimes the recipe will come together after only a short amount of time...other times it will take hours, days, weeks, months, even years for it to come together. Trust that the ingredients are meant to be together and will eventually interact in just the way they need to.
- Speaking of those ingredients...don't be afraid to change them. At times, the result will not taste quite the same as it did originally. Just tweak something...don't throw away the entire thing. Look for ways to re-invent what you have.
- Accept whatever the end result is. This doesn't mean that you are complacent or that you are a pushover, but it does mean that you have some peace about working with the "hand that you've been dealt" and that you've figured out how to make the best of it. (And then do it differently the next time if you're not satisfied.)
- When in doubt:
> have faith that things turn out the way they are supposed to
> ask advice from people whom you respect
> be patient...with yourself, with others, with life
> reach out to someone else and see if you can help
> turn to love